Dating and Going Out

Dividing dating into two different sub-species would help us see things more clearly.

Dating – the word and the idea – makes more sense as the process of spending time with someone with at least one eye towards creating a union. A formal, public union.

Going out – for which we should coin a new word – is all about being with another person (or a number of other people) with a view to simply being with them. Like being in the moment, we’re going out for entertainment, for the company, for passing time or perhaps we’re just looking for a sex partner.

They’re different behaviors, with an entirely different intent. Calling them both “dating” is confusing, leading nowhere particularly good.