Boundary Rider

I can’t imagine what it’s like inside the head of a modern woman. On one hand she is propelled by her biology, her DNA and all that flows from that.

Then she has to integrate the expectations derived from the modeling of her parents and the lessons of growing up.

And on top of it all she has the day-to-day influences of peers and media.

What stands out in my big-picture description are the differences of time-frame; biology operates over thousands of years, and they become progressively short-term thereafter.

Looking at it this way gives us a perspective on the nature of change in women in the last few decades. Pushing boundaries of their behavior – towards a more male-associated pathology – means lots of uncertainty and chaos. When we operate at the edge of experience and knowledge, there will be success and there will be tears.

And there will come a time when pushing a boundary begins to operate against us. Going too far oftentimes results in self- as well as collateral damage. Unfortunately, knowing when to slow down, ie: knowing the limits of change, is a skill that can only be learned. It’s not innate.