Nailed It

An element of possession wafts around all relationships, whether we actually think about it in terms of ownership or not. We use phrases like:

…my girl..

…she’s mine…

…I want to be hers…

I imagine (and hope) that we shade this you belong to me idea with a matching and reciprocal I belong to you feeling. In a sense that word – belonging – is a better expression, implying as it does a kind of voluntary placing of ourselves in the hands of another.

If belonging is the right word, the foundation for wanting to put part of our being in the hands of another is trust. I have to trust you and you have to trust me for this to work. My question is how we know to trust someone, and how do they know to trust us?

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