Eavesdropping on conversations is unavoidable. If people choose to talk at a volume and distance from me that makes this so, then so be it…I’m in.
I listen for a specific kind of exchange, one that engages my natural snoop – the way people who are either dating or coupled talk to each other. My natural inclination is to put a lot of store in the subtleties of verbal communication because it is a short-cut to the attitudes of those involved.
Style is my weakness. Tone, emphasis and body language are fascinating to me because they’re at least as important as the spoken words. You know the thing:
Yeah, I think you’re doing the right thing.
Oh, yeah, that’s the right thing to do.
Are two opposite messages. Couples often have their own mode of communicating, from which I learn how good couples work and how the others do it.