Being a person is an immensely complex enterprise. Always, there is something to deal with.
Let’s go down the list: We must be fed and watered, housed, and kept cool or warm. Then we need money, employment, stimulation, entertainment and ways to express ourselves. Family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, children, pets and community groups all seem essential if we are to have the full human experience. And some kind of spiritual outlet fulfills many of us.
No wonder we are overscheduled and underslept.
Where I think we lose – or feel like we lose – control of keeping our lives together is when emotion become our first reaction to the snags of life. Emotions are visceral and therefore part of our essence, but that does not mean they’re always good. If anyone can explain how jealousy, for example, is a productive answer to anything, I think many of us would be interested.
The answer might be as simple as some kind of conscious filtering process when we notice that feeling of emotional upwelling. The simple act of observing it gives us power to over-rule, or at least modify what we do thereafter. Apology is good when necessary, but an exhausting lifestyle choice.