Almost always a mismatch of intention sits between new daters. Men want the sex, women want…sex perhaps, but oftentimes more than that.
One way to allow men’s motivations to catch up with women is to give them the time to do so; time to get to know you, time to go beyond the initial attraction. In other words, if he’s still interested after ten dates, he might be longer-term coupling material. If that’s what you want.