What do you first notice about someone?
My working theory is that our brains – chaotic as they are – have a specific hierarchy of judgement about people. Especially prospective coupling-type people.
We meet someone new and a file is created. To begin with, it is just that; an empty hanging file with a label. It’s empty. Imagine you see someone walk into a coffee shop, perhaps a first date. In quick succession we notice:
– size (meaning height and width)
– the way they move and
– their face
The order might change, but not by much. Also, this might be a male set of priorities, not a female list.
In less than a handful of seconds, records of these first impressions are created and filed away in that pristine new file. And there they stay.