Take a step back from the Hollywood/Madison Avenue/Playboy depiction of sex and your perspective changes. Why is it that we have come to define sex as either successful or not? With the infinite variations of intimacy available, why do we feel the urge to make climax the centerpiece of our encounters? Is not mutually happy connection a simpler and more profound standard, if we need one at all?
We are not orgasmic robots.
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