The unifying theme of most self-help is to start with a goal. Most western-style self-help, that is – Buddhism might be less inclined to something so definitive.

And yet it appears that the only clearly articulated intent of most daters, singletons like me, is to “find the right person.” Sure, it’s a fine aim, but what would Anthony Robbins think? Is that really the kind of chiseled-in-marble motivator that gets anyone up in the morning?

I think not.

We need to figure out exactly what we want. Precision is the mother of a good fit.

I just made that up.