My wise and considered friends made a good point last night: that for people to get know us, we need to show ourselves in different lights.
Some people only see us at work, or at the gym or at specific social events. Although it sounds obvious, dating (or even pre-dating, whatever we call that) rewards us when we vary the venue and the activity.
I, for example, tend to play a given role at some social events. That part of me might or might not be attractive to any ladies I meet there. Changing the context – the company, the purpose, etc – allows me to show a different side. My guess is that you are the same.
What people see in us is beyond our control. Giving them a selection from which to choose is not.